Are offenses, like beauty, in the eye of the beholder???

Who creates the offense, the offended or the offender???Are offenses, like beauty, in the eye of the beholder???
the offended - perceptions, truth, reality all relative to our current position, subject to a more expansive cognition in any moment, and what was ';all'; true becomes a lesser truth





one always has the choice of how to take what is offered - react or respond, conditioned response, or preferenceAre offenses, like beauty, in the eye of the beholder???
Hello Alberto,





%26lt;smile%26gt; ';Offense'; is an emotional response to a given stimulus.





In other words, you choose to feel offended by the stimulus instead of assessing it objectively. For those who have never considered their belief systems as needing serious impartial evaluation, the actions taken because of the 'offense' are often based on personal beliefs or prejudices. I try to look at the intent behind the attempted offense.





In cases such as those on this board whereby 'loaded' questions are designed to bait readers with passionate beliefs, I just sigh and pass them by... knowing that the intent is inflammatory. I don't find vicarious pleasure in that kind of needling nor do I get pleasure out of watching someone become angry, curse, or play superior mindgames. %26lt;shrug%26gt;





Personally, and I admit my own prejudices, I find that unenlightened behavior. Why feed the beast?





I like to give most people the benefit of the doubt. Human communication, at best, is an iffy thing. Half the problem lies in misunderstanding each other and then becoming passionate or emotional in defending themselves against what they believe was an offense. A few moments more of clarification of meaning could have avoided the whole nasty joyride... with the resultant dump of emotions that leaves your soul all sticky.





Tara
Sometimes. But, even if someone doesn't deserve (for lack of a better word)the offense, the scripture tells the Christian to be slow to take offense. If we could practice that and overlook offenses, we would be better equipped to win souls for the Lord. If we truly ';die to self'; how can we rightfully take offense at anything? Dead people don't get offended. People are so touchy in this world today, you never know what is gonna set someone off. But, the Christian has a double duty to not take offense and also to not offend. It's not easy sometimes, but it should be a conscious desire in every Christian's heart.
Are you really asking if there is true Truth? If there is a moral law, there must be a moral law-giver. Those who say truth is truth for me, but not for you... ';the offender or the offended';. I believe there are moral laws that everyone follows because there is a moral law-giver...God.





So, the offense is not just in the eye of the beholder. If I kill someone, it is first, an offense against God Himself, the moral law-giver, then it is an offense against the offended. The offender is the one who broke the moral law.
are offenses, like beauty, in the eye of the beholder??? In most case yes, especially on the net where one cannot hear speech nuances. Some offenses are very intentional however.