Why does it seem to be an insult when someone says beauty is in the eye of the beholder?

Ok you hear this all the time. But if someone says this to me I get upset. It's like saying oh someone will find you attractive. This guy might not but others might. Obviously the person saying this to you doesn't think you're that great. Because would they say this to say Britney spears? Aren't there some people that everyone thinks is pretty for the most part. So saying beauty is in the eye of the beholder isn't that really like saying you're not that great?Why does it seem to be an insult when someone says beauty is in the eye of the beholder?
not really. i think you see this in that way. when someone tells you that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, it means that beauty is in the way you see yourself. others dont get to see yourself the way you do and therefore when people say that to you they would think that you are the beholder and can see for yourself your beauty. what sounds worse to me is the saying beauty is skin deep, but at the same time i like this saying because in some way it does apply to me and others out there. i dont thing im beautiful on the outside, and people have given me a hard time about my looks on the outside too, and so i like to think that beauty lies within me. its the way i see it. it's what attracts people to me. i could have taken my anger on the people who've hurt me in the past, but i didnt, and instead the more i hang around with those people the more i became friends with them and the more they got to see the inner me. you look at someone like angelina jolie, jessica alba, jessica simpson, salma hayek, and other celebrities and think how pretty and beautiful these women look, but at the same time does that really matter? does it really matter what other people think of you? i dont think it should, and it should come from you, the way you see yourself. when people say to you beauty is in the eye of the beholder, they are merely trying to say that at the end of the day, it's you who should know where beauty lies to you.Why does it seem to be an insult when someone says beauty is in the eye of the beholder?
Sounds to me like she's being petty.
i see your point and i really agree with you
I think you are just oversensitive perhaps. It's a very true statement that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, maybe your friend was referring more to the fact that you didn't feel you were worried you weren't attractive enough, she was just trying to reassure you. You seem insecure, but you needn't be. HTH : )
I think what it means is that certain people were raised to like certain traits. It's not that your ';not that great'; but that ';your greatness is particular';





I hope this helps.
Its a nice way of saying if youre gapped-toothed and your teeth stick out, chill out bucky-baby, cuz somewhere there's a man that dont want nothin better than a woman who can bite an apple thru a picket fence!
It doesn't sound insulting to me. I think it depends on how you take it and of course on the manner or tone of voice of the one who said the line to you. The comment in itself is not negative.
that doesnt even make sence
Don't be so down on yourself. You know, the guy you like might not be another girls choice of guys, but you like him. You have taken the time to know him and you probably think that he is the best. That is why we are all different, with different tastes and values.